what is this abuse?

Have you ever dealt with a toxic person? Someone who made you feel small? A loved one who neglected or dismissed you? It can be in any form or from any type of relationship. If this is something that you have endured at some time in your life...you are not alone. There are so many people from all walks of life that have gone through some form of abuse. Abuse can be in the form of physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. These types of abuse can come in as subtle or aggressive or anywhere in between. This is not a one size that fits all but more very dynamic in nature. I want to share on the topic of narcissism abuse. The word narcissist is thrown around a lot these days. Until you fully understand what a narcissist is, you cannot use that to label a person. It is best to do your research on such so you can gain a greater understanding. I personally have dealt with narcissists in my life, and it was pure hell. A narcissist is so cunning, charming, and puts you under their spell. There are several types of narcissists, and each one has very similar characteristics. You could be the smartest, brightest, and have your ducks in a row. That does not prevent you from falling for one. They know how to manipulate, coerce, gaslight, and love bomb you. Before you know it, you are in their web of lies. There are so many facets to a narcissist, and it is crucial that you are armed with knowledge. The narcissist goes for an empathic, loving, kind, open-minded person. This person is their target. If you embody empathy, they can smell you miles away. The first thing you really need to understand is that you cannot win with a narcissist. They are experts in lying, deceitfulness, playing games, and having their way. The best you can do is AVOID them as best as you can. If you see the signs and something is off...RUN! I literally mean run and not look back. You will pay a heavy price for dealing with them. They will strip away your identity and leave you an empty shell. The longer you are with a narcissist, the harder it is to escape. I know this sounds crazy and how can someone be foolish enough to engage like this. But what I am sharing is facts and I have lived it. It is always important to know who you are and have your boundaries in place. To love yourself unconditionally and not be swayed by another person. Do not attach yourself to anyone, or anything. Listen to that still small voice inside of you because it will guide you. If you encounter someone who love bombs you right off the cuff...red flag. Do not wait for that flag to get bigger and more red. Heed to it and see that is your gut telling you to be cautious. When something feels too good to be true, then that's your sign. My best advice to you is not to entertain any red flags. I don’t care how great it looks, smells, and entices you. Do not always fall for anything or anyone that gives you butterflies. Those feelings are not always genuine and can hurt you in the long run. Always protect yourself from harm because not everyone has good intentions. As I have stated, do the research and read about the psychosis of narcissism. You need to see for yourself and have a greater upper hand of who they are. KNOWLEDGE IS POWER. You will be saved months or even years of grief. So go and educate yourself as if your life depends on it because it does.