PAST HURTS

PAST HURTS. Who hasn't had past rejections, let downs, pain and upsets from people? We all have faced these issues at one time or another. Maybe many of us have dealt with them more than we can count. But regardless of the number of times it has happened, we still managed to bounce back. Now the bouncing back may have been very bumpy. And even some of us may still carry that hurt with us. If you don't get to the root or even bring it to the surface, it will continue to fester. The hurt does not just go away. It is something that you have to deal with. You may find yourself not trusting anyone or anything. The wall is so high that no one can come in. What kind of life is that? You have built a fortress around your heart and are completely numb. I know it is not easy to just bring down the walls when you have been jaded so many times. But it is unhealthy as well to just let life pass you by. The fear of letting anyone in and barricading yourself is not the answer. Sure, no one wants to be hurt or feel such dread of what can happen. We cannot predict what others are going to do or how they will act. However, we can protect ourselves by doing the inner work. What I mean by that is going within and really seeing what's inside. You need to look at all the past hurts and anything that makes you uncomfortable. Again, no one said it would be easy. But harboring hurt and not trusting anyone is detrimental to your health and psyche. Keeping it bottled up causes more problems than you realize. By doing the deep dive, you can pull out all the stops and look deeply at each thing. See why it brings discomfort to yourself. Then ask yourself what you can do to release it. In which way are you able to sit with the feeling. You will have a sense of relief as you open yourself up to whatever it is. That release may be anger, tears, etc... but the flow is what you need. If someone has hurt you, you can release them. There is no need to hang on what you cannot change. The only thing we can change is ourselves. We are in control of our emotions and what we choose to keep. No person can control us unless we give them that power. By holding onto the past hurts, you are giving your power away. Even if that person did us so wrong and we didn't deserve whatever it was. You cannot go back and change the circumstances. You only can move forward in a positive direction and let go of it. Holding onto whatever it is does not heal you in any way. The healing comes when you realize you have the power to release it. You know what? You had the power all along! No person, place or thing has dominion over you! You have dominion over yourself! You are in control of the action you choose to take or accept. Will that action be time to open the floodgates and release it all? To be fully healed and remove the barricade around your heart. So, the choice is yours. Are you going to do the work that will heal your being? Or be a victim of another's doing?